Hello beuatiful soul!
Have you ever felt like your struggles in your current relationship might be conditioned by previous painful experiences? Or maybe you keep feeling that you never truly moved one from that relationship and you will never find the right person until you finally let go?
If so, this article is for you!
The way we think, feel and behave in our relationships can be heavily influenced by previous experiences.
If you have ever experienced a heart-break, been in an abusive or toxic relationship or even if you have never had a serious relationship before, very likely those experiences left an imprint in you.
Based on previous experiences, we develop beliefs about ourselves, about love, about relationships, about men/women… And some of them might be limiting and stopping us from enjoying healthy, joyful and fulfilling relatioships.
Continue reading or watch this live workshop to learn more about how to clear old relationship baggage and heal the wounds step by step.
Step 1. Awareness
Think of your past relationships (yes, that guy you fancied when you were 5 also counts!) and reflect on the following questions:
- What do they have in common? Did they start/end in a similar way? Did any patterns repeat?
- What beliefs are you carrying from those experiences that could be having a negative impact in your current relationships?
- How did these experiences impact the relationship with yourself?
- Does it feel like any of these relationships are not ‘fully closed’ chapters?
2. Closing old chapters
If you have identified one or various relationships that still need to be healed, grieved or properly closed, here are some suggestions:
- Write a goodbye letter. This is not to send to the other person or for anyone else to see, this is just for YOU! Write about how you felt, say the things you didn’t say back then, just express whatever comes to your awareness. Don’t worry about the structure, or the content of if it makes sense or not, just write whatever you feel you have to say.
- Do a ‘closure ceremony’. Burn or bury the letter, do a fire ceremony to let go of this relationship, throw away something you were still holding onto… Be creative!
- Cord cutting is an extremely powerful technique to move on from an ex-partner, especiallly if you feel they always appear randomly or contact you just when you were about to move on… You can learn more about cord cutting and how to do it at home here.
3. Rewrite Your Story
The part of you that was hurt in a previous relationship probably made some decisions about herself, love or relationships.
Close your eyes and visualise that part of yourself, it will probably take you to certain events in the relationship or maybe even to a younger age.
Help her rewrite her story. How can you help her make more empowering decisions? What do you know now that she didn’t back then that would help her heal and move on? What does she need to say or do or experience to resolve how she is feeling?
Matrix Reimprinting is a wonderful technique for this, you can learn more about it here.
Also, in my free online course ‘Step Into Your Power with Confidence & Joy’ you will learn how to go to the root of limiting beliefs and rewrite them into empowering ones in a way that you will actually rewire your subconscious mind. Sign-up for free here.
Hi, I’m Verónica! I work with women on a self-development journey who feel ready to fianlly do the deep healing so they can live they joyful and fulfilling life they deserve. I have helped many women across the globe (almost 20 countries now!) to step into their power and elevate themselves beyond their story and start living in an authentic and fulfilling way, leaving the people pleasing, self-doubts and old ways of living behind.
If you are ready for the deepest level of healing and transformation, book a free discovery session with me to see how my healing coaching programmes can help you create the life of joy and purpose you came here to live.
